The Emerald Girl

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Tuesday, November 14, 2017

Parenthood is a Real Killjoy

The hardest thing about parenting is saying no
The thing I hate about parenthood is the number of times I have to say NO during any given day. I hate it. It kills me inside. Not because I want to say yes but because I'd like to not have to say no about the same subject over and over and over and over and over all day long.

I try as hard as I can to say yes a lot for things that don't really matter. Like just silly, complicated, ways that take too long, ways that don't do it right, things that require my assistance when I don't feel like helping, things that make a mess. Yes to a million random things. I even said yes to basically eating all of the halloween candy in 3 days. (Admittedly, that was to my benefit, so I didn't have to deal with saying no for the next two weeks).

Saying no is necessary though. I have to say no to a lot. Morgan is only 2 years old. I have to say no to things that are physically dangerous. I have to say no to eating too much crap. (Again, this benefits me as well, for example taking care of teeth so I don't have large dental bills). But also, my main responsibility as a parent is to set them up for success so that they don't need a parent later in life (not that we never need our parents but you know what I mean). I think the biggest thing I say no to right now is snacking all day long. Literally, all day long, "can I have a banana", "can I have some crackers", "can I have an apple", "can I have candy", "can I have something to eat". Makes me want to blow my brains out. Why can't I just say no, we are not eating until lunch or dinner and have that be the final word? Why do I repeatedly have to say no to the same things all day long??????

It just makes it hard to enjoy life. It makes me feel ugly and old. I'm not a no person. I live for excitement and adventure but I guess my type of excitement is different than a 5 year olds.

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