The Emerald Girl

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Tuesday, January 17, 2017

The Pitfalls of Being a Yes-Man

Saying no is one of the hardest things for me to do. Admittedly, I am getting better but nonetheless I am still facing the consequences of saying yes to too many things. This past month alone, I've had four different opportunities that have reinforced in my mind that I need to get better at saying no.

It is hard for me to say no because I hate to look like a failure or let someone down or look like a bitch. I'm the type of person that will do anything to try to make it all work out and the truth of the matter is that I can't do everything. Saying yes to one thing inevitably means that another thing is going to be pushed to the side.

As people get older, time shrivels up. Between being married, having kids, working and other responsibilities, there are only so many other things I can practically say yes to. My choices need to be intentional and meaningful if I want to achieve the goals that I have set. I hate that it's like that, I hate that I can't say yes to every exciting opportunity that comes across my desk.

Just this morning I had to turn down a really great opportunity because it didn't fit in with my overall goals in life right now. I hit send on the email that declined the offer. I felt deflated. Like a loser. My real issue here is that I need to work on feeling secure in my decisions but still. I hate the idea that someone might think I don't want to put in the hard work. The truth of the matter is that my life with an *almost* 5 year old and a 1.5 year old is the hardest work and right now I don't want a lot of other stress or responsibility in my life. I'm striving for balance in health, family and work.

Here's to hoping that this decade of my life can be defined by me finding my voice and strength in who I am and what I want.

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