The Emerald Girl

casual. classic. curious.

Tuesday, January 31, 2017

Looking Through Social Media

Social media is the modern day looking glass house. In it you see wonderful, mysterious, whimsical things. There are larger than life things and smaller than small. Excitement waits around every corner. With one simple click you are transported to a fantastic world. But this romantic fantasy is lined by a deep, dark forest. Where the shadows slowly creep behind you until all at once you can no longer see anything but darkness. Daydreams turn into nightmares and the dancing sugarplums all but vanish into nothingness.
In this analogy, we are Alice.
Our goals, ideas and passions are the marvelous things that curiosity grows. Social media, in its vast mightiness, has the power to inspire and encourage our thoughts, our relationships and our core being. Amazing things happen in the great internets. And yet, with a simple turn of the clock, what once sparked joy and called action begins to cripple under the crushing weight of comparison. That thief which strikes in the darkness.
The little lies that add up over time. Those little lies, we might not even notice but when the snowball comes we can't pick them off. We can't tell where one begins and where the other ends. When joy turns to jealousy and the heart becomes bitter think about stepping back to see yourself more clearly and remember that little screen is only a looking glass that reflects a distorted reality.

Thursday, January 19, 2017

Saturday Donuts

The pink frosting melted in my mouth and the sprinkles added the perfect crunch to the fluffy Krispy Kreme donut. Sometimes Saturday calls for a little breakfast treat. Who am I kidding? Saturday always calls for breakfast treats. The sweet strawberry smell evident the moment you come within range just begs to be eaten. Slowly my props disappear from six to five, then five to four and so on until only one remains and the only thing left is sprinkles on the pavement. Can't say that's anything to complain about.

All images shot with my iPhone 6.

What's your favorite Saturday breakfast treat?

Tuesday, January 17, 2017

The Pitfalls of Being a Yes-Man

Saying no is one of the hardest things for me to do. Admittedly, I am getting better but nonetheless I am still facing the consequences of saying yes to too many things. This past month alone, I've had four different opportunities that have reinforced in my mind that I need to get better at saying no.

It is hard for me to say no because I hate to look like a failure or let someone down or look like a bitch. I'm the type of person that will do anything to try to make it all work out and the truth of the matter is that I can't do everything. Saying yes to one thing inevitably means that another thing is going to be pushed to the side.

As people get older, time shrivels up. Between being married, having kids, working and other responsibilities, there are only so many other things I can practically say yes to. My choices need to be intentional and meaningful if I want to achieve the goals that I have set. I hate that it's like that, I hate that I can't say yes to every exciting opportunity that comes across my desk.

Just this morning I had to turn down a really great opportunity because it didn't fit in with my overall goals in life right now. I hit send on the email that declined the offer. I felt deflated. Like a loser. My real issue here is that I need to work on feeling secure in my decisions but still. I hate the idea that someone might think I don't want to put in the hard work. The truth of the matter is that my life with an *almost* 5 year old and a 1.5 year old is the hardest work and right now I don't want a lot of other stress or responsibility in my life. I'm striving for balance in health, family and work.

Here's to hoping that this decade of my life can be defined by me finding my voice and strength in who I am and what I want.

Tuesday, January 10, 2017

The #1 Rule of Texting

There are so many different ways a person can communicate these days, I often find myself in the middle of multiple conversations each using a different form of technology. Speaker phone with my mom, texting with my sister, emailing with a friend, oh, and then that random IG DM convo. Each form of communication carries with it some unwritten rules of etiquette, including the timeliness of a response. Texting is the easiest and fastest way to convey information but it seems that receiving a texted response back is like trying to ask a Real Housewife for an apology - it ain't ever going to happen!
Texting etiquette 101:
When you receive a text, it is polite to respond even with a small acknowledgement within 24 hours. After the initial response it is not necessarily required to engage in a back and forth conversation; that depends on what is said.

No one should expect an immediate response back because you never know what the receiver is doing. They could be driving, sleeping, running after children, making out with their boyfriend, at a movie, zoned out, accidentally left the volume off or a number of other things.

What I can't get over and what has become such a pet-peeve of mine is people who never respond. I'm not texting people just to see how fast I can type. I'm conveying information that I thought was important enough to send someone. When people don't respond to my text messages, I'm left wondering if they even got the text message? Or I'm left with the sinking realization that I'm not important enough to the receiver to respond. Or I simply think of that person as rude. Sure, I have times when I receive a text while I'm in the middle of doing something and then I forget to respond until way later but that's why it's acceptable to respond within 24 hours. That happens to all of us.

Remember: a quick response is better than no response.