The Emerald Girl

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Tuesday, September 6, 2016

It's OK to have regrets

By definition, regret is "a feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over something that has happened or been done".
I hear a lot of people asked about what their biggest regret is and the most common answer is that they don't have any regrets because every decision they have made has brought them to where they are. This canned answer has always come off as superficial to me.

Either the responder is not thinking because everyone has done things in their life that they wish they didn't do or wish they had done slightly different OR the responder is choosing to not be transparent.

It's important to acknowledge the negative so that we can turn it into a positive and grow.

I don't sit around dwelling on the mistakes of my past but believe me there are things in my life that I wish I would not have done at all. Period. Yes, I can say that some mistakes have made me stronger but mostly stronger in the sense that I know I will never be making that same mistake again. If I hadn't made those mistakes, yes, I wouldn't be where I am right now but maybe I'd be in a better place or even just a different place. The thing is we wouldn't hate where we were if we were in a different place - that would be all we know so there wouldn't be this feeling of 'oh, if only I would have made a different decision then my life would look like such and such'.

Regret shows that we are human. That we have a conscience and are aware of being social beings. Regret shows that we can recognize poor decision making and make a change.

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