The Emerald Girl

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Thursday, June 19, 2014

When You Realize You Need to Negotiate

OK, I'm feeling very frustrated.

Recently I got a promotion. I did not even try to negotiate the raise. I just took what they gave me and went along. What they gave me is fine. I guess. Maybe it's not fine. More is not just fine. I should not just be OK with more because it's more. I've been reading a lot here and here about negotiating. Women are notorious for not getting paid more because they don't ask. There is no one to blame but myself. Am I expecting my boss to come along side me and fight for me to be a fighter? To explain to me that I need to just be confident and assertive. That is certainly not going to happen. Though I often romanticize about a confident, professional, successful woman seeing me and all of my glorious potential and telling me they want to take me under their wing and show me the ropes. Why do I have that silly idea in my head? That is never going to happen. If I want something, anything I have to get it for myself.

Here's the bottom line: if you accept what your employer offers you, then you are accepting less than what they can pay you and less that what you are worth. Bottom line. Truth.

I'm frustrated that once again I was too afraid to speak up. I feel like I was taken advantage of but really, I just let them offer me that low ball rate and let them make me believe I was less than what I am. I'm the employee of the quarter. I'm not just some person with no value.

I seriously need to work on my confidence. Anyone out there got any tips???

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