The Emerald Girl

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Thursday, January 23, 2014

Am I Snobby?

Last week I finally got a glimpse into what other people perceive of who I am upon first look. Sophisticated and snobby. In other words: bitch. Well, I knew it. I blame it on my shyness. Sophisticated means very complex or having acquired wordly knowledge or refinement. (Source) I'm a girl. And I write a blog. I think we can all assume I am complex. Haha! All in all the definition isn't bad. Snobby on the other hand. That is a different story. I'm one of the least snobby people I know. Because I am shy, it makes me socially awkward in the sense that I don't often know how to talk to people I don't know and I don't know what to talk to them about. I would like to though. As much as I enjoy writing, I would enjoying talking. It's something I am working on. Let me say that the person who did tell me this, said it on the context of saying I was actually nothing like what one might think of me upon first meeting. So basically I'm like a present. Don't judge me by my pretty wrapping paper?? It helps me to remember not to do the same for other people that I perceive to be pretty, well put together and not exuding a real welcoming presence. They might be shy too. I find that most people are insecure or shy or worried about something or other that prevents them from being friendly. I don't want to be that person. It only promotes more of that same thing. Be friendly. SMILE at other people you walk by. Say HELLO! It's 99.99% more likely that the other person enjoys your friendliness and is not thinking anything weird or negative about you. If I ever see you and we don't know each other or we don't know each other well, please say hello and talk to me. We can all work on breaking out of our shell together. We can all spread cheer and donate a minute or less than a minute of time each day to brighten someone else's day.

Here's a really good example: Gail Simmons. I am not part of the "food" world so I can't tell you what she actually does, but she also judges on Top Chef. The first several seasons, I wasn't very fond of her. She just came off snobby and uptight and just something about her rubbed me the wrong way. Now, this was TV, so I know we are really only getting a pretty one sided view of people. But then she changed. It happened after she got married from what I can tell. I don't know if that was just a coincidence but she really changed. She now seems super welcoming and fun and friendly. So, we can change how people perceive us. I'm guessing she was always this fun and friendly gal but maybe she was acting in a certain way as a judge and really started to realize she wasn't coming off as likable so actively changed how she was was on camera etc. Or I could be totally wrong about this...

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